By ANNE DONNELL It's only been a few weeks since I thought I was going crazy over the Mr. and Mrs. Biff and Bunny situation. Now another "new" phrase has gotten the best of me. (Where did that phrase come from —“gotten the best of me”?) In the mail I received my phone bill -- they not only wanted my money for our bill (it's not past due) -- but they want us to "give back to the kids". Now don't get me wrong -- I adore children -- we have all ages in and out of our house constantly, but what have these anonymous kids done for me that I should "give back" to them? I'm not upset about giving to those in need -- including children. I'm upset with the phrase!!! Believing the truth of James 1:17 "Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights..." I know any giving I do (monetarily, time, emotions, etc.) is my giving back to God. But give back to the kids? This "giving back" phrase is everywhere I turn. Again--am I going crazy for nothing--is this a valid phrase? -Your friend who wants to be a giver--just not a giver back I admire this lady and appreciate she thinks, she notices. And, no, everyone doesn’t. Starting with gotten the best of me I went a lookin’ and found a nothin’. There’s information on get a break, get a horse, get a rise out of someone, get in one’s hair, get more bang for the buck, get off the dime, get one’s dander up, get one’s ducks in a row, get one’s Ebenezer up [means become angry as Ebenezer is used as a nickname for the devil, but not in verse two of “Come, Thou Fount of Every Blessing” in which the hymn singer announces, “Here I raise mine Ebenezer; hither by Thy help I’ve come…” words credited to Robert Robinson in 1758. This is a reference to I Samuel 7: 12, and Ebenezer (actually two words in the Hebrew) means “stone of help.” Another suggestion: “stone of mercy.”], get one’s Irish up, get one’s monkey up, get outta here, get outta town, get out the crying towel, get thee to a nunnery, get the gold ring, get the hook, get the man not the ball, get the upper hand, get up on the wrong side of bed, get smart, get there fustest with the mostest, get over here, get out of that, get the sack, get one’s back up, get one’s goat, get a break. Many of these have to do with losing one’s temper. Is it hopeful that we seem well aware of bad temper (think common escalations: violence and war), or are we only fond of talking about bad temper in others? Remember “Let There Be Peace on Earth and Let It Begin with Me”? (Husband and wife Sy Miller and Jill Jackson wrote the song in 1955.) Speaking of music, get the best of me has lots of action. Lyricsmode online offers free ringtone of “You Can’t Get the Best of Me,” a song performed by B-Real and Sen Dog from the rap group Cypress Hill. Another song, same name, is performed by R&B singer Mўa. Still another song, “Music Gets the Best of Me” is performed by Sophie Ellis Bexter, which has a parody “Food Gets the Best of Me” by Chamstar Anderson and Harry Smith-Luck. PAUSE FOR SOME ONLINE FAMILY “ENCOURAGEMENT.” (Thanks, JP)• “Marriage as a Guy Sees It” • Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence (a life sentence). • Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are still attached. • Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his bachelor degree and the woman gets her masters. • Marriage is a thing which puts a ring on a woman's finger, and two under the man's eyes • Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the NEIGHBORS listen. • It is true that love is blind but marriage is definitely an eye-opener. • Getting married is very much like going to the restaurant with friends. You order what you want, and when you see what the other fellow has, you wish you had ordered that instead. • There was this man who muttered a few words in the church and found himself married. A year later he muttered something in his sleep and found himself divorced. BACK TO BUSINESS - give back. The phrase isn’t going away; it has its own website. (Really. Giveback.net) The Ritz-Carlton offers “Give Back Getaways” in places like Bali, Grand Cayman, Sarasota, Istanbul. The program (quoting from the promotion online) “offers our guests an exceptional opportunity to give back to the community in a way that is meaningful to them and to the lives of others. Participating in a half-day local community experience, guests will work alongside our Ritz-Carlton Ladies and Gentlemen in a Community Footprints social or environmental project. The Give Back Getaways experience is unique to each destination and designed to make a lasting contribution and enduring impression. All profits from the Give Back Getaways programs are donated to the partner organizations.” Once again the giving back is unclear. For example, what has Bali done for one, other than inspire a vaguely remembered appreciation of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s South Pacific? (Song: “Bali Hi”). So, there’s giving back and there’s giving back, as our QP of T (Question Person of Today) aptly points out. Giving back implies one has been a beneficiary and now wishes to do something good for one’s benefactor. Why not use the phrase accurately? There’s a note of obligation in give back that entrepreneurs want to encourage. Playing on such feelings, often accompanied by that old weasel guilt, people induce others to act or to donate because it’s something demanded by what one is and what one has done. And, naturally, connecting children to any cause usually helps. This needs to be a season of giving, and the cause espoused by the company our QP of T mentions is no doubt a good one. It’s the back in give back that’s got our back up. Our airways and pathways are full of words that don’t mean much. Blunted instruments. But not James 1:17, a golden note in a cold climate this Christmas, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights...” Thank you, QP of T, for your gift of reminding.