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Insecurity Digest: Married? Fight Like Mad!

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I went to a wedding recently. It was a good wedding. A stunning dress, beautiful flowers, a moving exchange, a promising kiss, the thunderous pronouncement. A celebration of love and commitment. Yes, a wonder to behold.

There is something therapeutic about going to a wedding. . . one that is not yours, that is. It's a reminder of what it felt like to be at the beginning of your journey, love in its infancy. Standing there, face to face, for the moment secured from those inevitable circumstances that will most certainly test those sacred vows.

Everything in this fallen universe wages war against marriage. The laws of nature wreak havoc with our appearance; the mirror tells no lies. What physical characteristics he or she fell in love with can still be appreciated; however, gravity makes re-location inevitable. Flawless beauty is replaced with . . . well, flaws. Handsome gives way to distinguished. We are all slaves to time; nobody escapes the second hand.

More incessant than the ticking of the clock, our inner voice, fueled by our fallen nature, urges us never to be satisfied with the moment, constantly pushing us to look for the next best thing. The pressure cooker of our jobs, the needs of family, the financial strains that stretch our endurance. We grow weary. We entrench ourselves in self-pity. It can change us, and not always for the better. There is very little in our days under the sun that holds up to the type of commitment we are so daring to attempt in marriage. No other immutability. No other ever after. And culture doesn't help much either. It woos us with promises of sustainable pleasure and self-gratification. And when we are completely spent on the altar of self, only then do we see the world for the broken place it really is. We have trouble keeping our own promises to ourselves, much less to our beloved. No. Marriage is a crazy dream of the eternal. A dream authored by the Everlasting, replete with the sweet aroma of permanence we will most certainly find one day in His arms.

Is it possible then to prepare these young lovers, with rosy cheeks and misty eyes, for this epic battle? Is it prudent?

No, we who have come to stand as witnesses to this union hear once again of the symbols of this great endeavor: the ring, the candle, the prayer. We listen with a renewed understanding of our own journey, reflect on our mistakes and marvel at the depth and strength of love, two stunning treasures we could never have imagined on our own wedding day. We smile, and we nod, and we congratulate. We marvel at a story that has not yet been written. We are thankful for our own. We gather our things, and we make our way back to our own realities.

And in the words of the wise pastor officiating the recent ceremony, "We fight like mad." We fight like mad to honor the God who provided us with such an amazing privilege, the one true reflection of the love that Christ has for us. We fight like mad to honor the life of the one who took us on, with all of our weaknesses packed neatly in our suitcase, little unknowns revealed to our spouse under pressure and over time. We fight like mad to stay in love. We fight like mad to drown out the voices of those who would undermine our commitment. And when we find ourselves with our backs against the wall, we ask our Father for the strength to fight some more.

Marriage is a battle, but anything worth having is. So, no matter where you find yourself on your journey, whether you are feasting on the spoils of the mountain top or waging war against the darkness of the valley . . . fight like mad.

Jennifer Christenson is an English teacher at Mt. Juliet Christian Academy. To read more of her columns, visit insecuritydigest.com.

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