The family that sweats together...
I've learned a lot in my time as a health professional. Some of them include:
- A good workout can cure almost any bad day.
- People equate their coaches to psychologists (it's not just you).
- Nobody has a perfect diet. (I'm almost too embarrassed to share that).
- Hard work and sweat have a way of bringing people together.
Why not bring others along for the ride so they can share in the experience? They may gripe during, but you'll share the work and the growth. Could this possibly be one reason why our family units are drifting further apart? We all do our own things for fear of upsetting someone by asking them to help or for fear of it not being up to our perfectionistic standards.
I say grab their butt and make them help.
I've seen complete strangers become the best of friends from a single workout together. So why couldn't a family or group of coworkers do the same? Those insane team-building exercises seem to work for a reason. Grab them, do the work, share the experience, and grow together.
Last week we spoke about not competing with others. This week we're taking it a step further as we cover working together. Let's look at why working as a team can be so beneficial for all involved, even for you lone wolf types out there.
There are those of us who "just want things done right." Coincidentally, we may fit into that perfectionist column that I mentioned in last week's article and blog post. We don't mean anything by it, we just want it done right so we do it ourselves. What could possibly go wrong?
Well, a whole slew of problems can occur. First, we can ostracize ourselves from the group. What the perfectionist sees as merely wanting "done right," the rest of the group see as a "picky jerk who's never happy." This can obviously cause communication breakdown between you and coworkers or family members. Nobody will want to be your secret Santa!
Second, you rob people of the opportunity for growth. Think about it. Do you grow when you do things right, every time? NO. You grow when you screw things up horribly and have to try again. Failure is the only true path to learning.
If we are to truly learn new lessons we must take the action of applying them. Thus we are changing our behavior and growing as we learn. By "just doing it yourself," you're robbing those around you of the chance to screw it up, learn from it and grow.
Let others try even if they'll make mistakes, heck especially if they'll make mistakes. The messier the better. Then stand back and let them work through it. IF they ask for guidance, then offer guidance. Do not tell them what to do. Suggest solutions. Think of a trail of breadcrumbs, not a cattle prod. Also, resist the temptation to hop in and revert to "Do it myself," mode or risk going back to square one.
Third, by taking everything on yourself you may look like the superstar for a bit. You'll get hounded by paparazzi and be the hero of the workplace. But much like any celebrity, the day will come when you'll question where it all went wrong as you shave your head bald, walk down Main Street barefoot and mumble profanity under your breath.
By taking it all on in the hopes of doing it the right way you run the risk of overloading yourself. I know for a fact at least 100 of you reading this right now just thought, "Pssh, not me!" Pardon me as I laugh heartily... yes, you.
We all need help on occasion. Some of us may be the Michael Jordans of the workforce or family hierarchy, but we still need our teammates in clutch situations. We still need to delegate tasks, ask for help, and offer guidance.
I say "we" because I was the textbook definition of a perfectionist. And it cost me, multiple times. I look back at so much frustration that could've been avoided. I see responsibilities I could've handled much better. I recall opportunities for coworkers and friends that I hogged because I thought I knew best. Until I finally learned how to really do it the right way.
Now I understand the importance our communities play and I embrace them. So much so, that embracing your community is my 4th core value. I realize no man is an island and we all need help, even if we're not willing to admit it. If you or someone you know needs to put a little more faith in their community, visit www.FreshEvolutionFitness.com and click the blog "There's no 'I' in team." You'll find a handy little quiz to test your support network and be able to read more thoughts on why