Let's take a quick trip back. We're going back to your childhood. Hopefully, for the sake of the article, you learned to ride a bike at some point. If not, then maybe you learned how to swim, learned to walk or learned to talk. The task is not what's important, just pick something that you learned to do that wasn't inherently easy... at first.
Sticking with the bike analogy, you probably fell once or twice. Maybe you ran your bike into wet cement while wearing open toe sandals and cried all the way home. Or maybe you made the smart decision to ride your bike and carry a rake at the same time, resulting in the handle of the rake finding its way into the spokes of your front tire, causing the entire bike to do a front flip and you doing your best attempt at a cement swan dive... me + bike + cement = the ER people knew me on a first name basis.
My point with all of these two-wheeled shenanigans is that we often fail at what we first attempt. Rarely do we succeed on our first go round. What we do after that failure is what's crucial.
Most of us got back up, dusted ourselves off, hopped back on the bike (perhaps after some coaxing from our parents) and tried again. We continued this process until we succeeded and mastered it.
However, there are some of us out there who gave up. We fell, we got scared, or worse, scarred. We decided riding a bike just wasn't for us.
To this day, most likely, a bicycle is just seen as a trivial thing. It's not until we look deeply at ourselves that we realize how not trying again impacts us significantly more.
This concept carries over into adulthood. Hopefully, you have continued to try new things. Some of them, more than likely most, we fail at initially. But, just as with the bike, it's what you do afterward that truly matters.
The best way to do something right, is to do it wrong. Reread that sentence and let it sink in. That's right, making mistakes is the best learning tool we have.
In order to grow, we must continually learn new tools. We must read new books, watch new videos, experience new things and try new endeavors.
In order to succeed, we must try again regardless of how many times we fail. I've known people who hate failure. They think it's the territory of losers and quitters. Those who aren't good enough fail.
It couldn't be further from the truth. It takes the truly brave to admit they failed, to pick themselves up and get back at it. It's a coward who claims they never fail. It's a scared individual who says they always win.
Do not fear failure. Instead seek it out. When you fail, it's a sign that you can get better. When you get better, you grow. Therefore failure equals growth. Simple as that.
If you give up after failing, you run the risk of your failure haunting you forever. Anytime someone brings up the failed subject, you'll nervously laugh and dismiss it. You may have even convinced yourself that it really didn't matter, but deep down you know the truth. You have to overcome failure.
Take this concept with you wherever you go. It will help you to no longer fear failure. It will help you to seek it out and embrace it, knowing how much better you are for having endured it.
Until next time, fail my friends. Fail and grow. Fail and learn. Fail and succeed. As always, thank you for reading. Make the rest of your day fantastic. Now go be awesome!
Andy Frisch, NASM CPT, CES, PES, WFS, IFT, NESTA FNC, is a personal trainer and nutrition coach who enjoys working with clients of all shapes, sizes and ages. He currently train clients at Sports Village Fitness in Lebanon, works with clients online at www.FreshEvolutionFitness.com and frequently posts videos on his YouTube channel. He may be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org.